Katie Roper's daughter Ellen likes
to play lots of sports--soccer,
basketball, softball and swimming.
But even at Ellen's tender age of
nine, that's getting hard to do.
Kids in
her swim program are dropping other
sports to specialize in competitive
swimming year-round, and Ellen is having
a tough time keeping up. The year-round
swimmers tend to beat others badly, says
Ms. Roper, of Los Altos, Calif. "I'm sad
that soon she'll be discouraged and
probably want to quit a sport she
loves."
As
millions of kids take to fields, courts
and rinks this fall, as many as half to
two-thirds are destined to quit sports
by their teens, largely because they're
not having fun, studies show. A trend
toward specialization--pressure for kids
to play just one competitive sport
year-round--is one reason, researchers
say.
Many
kids thrive in competitive year-round
programs, learning advanced skills and
enjoying expanded opportunities. But the
programs can be a bad fit for others,
fostering stress and an overemphasis on
winning, says a recent focus-group study
of 67 school officials, coaches, parents
and teens led by Daniel Gould, director
of the Institute for the Study of Youth
Sports at Michigan State University.
Such strains are linked to higher injury
risk, reduced motivation and burnout.
For
parents who want their kids to embrace
sports as a path to lifelong fitness and
fun, the trend calls for new vigilance.
Here are some early-warning signs that
your child may be burning out:
It's
No Fun
A child
who grows bored, resists practices and
games, feigns illness or injury, or
retreats to the back of the line in
drills, is at high risk of dropping out.
Jeffrey L. Brown, a Harvard Medical
School psychologist, also cites fatigue,
performance worries or a lack of
concentration in other activities.
The
challenge for parents is to help
children hold on to the joy of
participating while others are focused
primarily on winning. Switching to a
community, YMCA or recreational league
program can help. But it's usually best
to finish the season, says Marty Ewing,
an associate professor of kinesiology at
Michigan State. Exceptions might include
cases when a child is clearly in over
her head and can't focus, or is so
mismatched with a team that she's at
risk of injury.
Teammates Aren't Compatible
Camaraderie is a big source of the fun
in sports and its absence can signal
trouble. Joy Wyatt's daughter showed
early aptitude for gymnastics and worked
hard, at age 8, to prepare for her first
competition. But when she was forced to
sit out with an injury, her teammates
were unsupportive and unkind, says Ms.
Wyatt of New York. Put off, she decided
to quit at the end of season.
Cheating Rears Its Head
If your
child complains about cheating or starts
cheating himself, burnout may loom.
Blaming a bad call for a loss or error
may signal that a child is frustrated,
anxious or too focused on winning, Dr.
Ewing says. It also may be a clue that
you're hovering too much: An in-depth
2006 study of four junior tennis players
at North Carolina State University,
Raleigh, found parental pressure to win
was by far the biggest reason players
cited as the cause of cheating.
Your
Involvement Eclipses Your Child's
A 2006
Norwegian study of 677 soccer players
ages 10 to 14 found children who felt
heavy performance pressure from parents
and coaches were over-concerned about
making mistakes and harsher in their
self-criticism.
If you
see such emotions in your child, Michael
Checchi advises, "take a hard look in
the mirror." When Mr. Checchi's son
showed early talent for baseball, he
immersed him in the sport, enrolling him
in off-season training and doing drills
at home. But to Mr. Checchi's dismay,
his son began at age 13 to lose
interest. "The harder I pushed, the more
resistance he gave me," recalls the San
Ramon, California, father. Finally, his
wife "told me I was being a jerk," he
says. He backed off, and his son's
interest in baseball soon reignited. |